Archive for April, 2012



Waiting. Anticipation high. The air of expectancy of a Messiah to come and rescue the Jewish people from captivity. But the time of the Messiah was not quite ready. First we see the dreadful and terrible effects of the law working to expose sinful deeds.

As a generation, the Jewish people were turning their hearts away from the one true God, and looking to other false god’s, lesser gods that could not save them.

“…They did not stop worshipping demons, and idols of gold, silver, bronze, stone and wood-idols that cannot see or hear or walk.” Revelation 9:20

“Do not turn to idols or make metal gods for yourselves. I am the Lord your God.” Lev. 19:4

“Do not make idols or set up an image or a sacred stone for yourselves, and do not place a carved stone in your land to bow down before it. I am the Lord your God.” Lev. 26:1

“you have done more evil than all who lived before you. You have made for yourselves other gods, idols made of metal; you have aroused my anger and turned your back on me.” 1 Kings 14:9

“They forsook all the commands of the Lord their God and made for themselves two idols in the shape of calves, and an Asherah pole. They bowed down to all the starry hosts, and they worshipped Baal.” 2 Kings 17:16

“They angered him with their high places; they aroused his jealousy with their idols.” Psalm 78:58

“Our God is in heaven, he does whatever pleases him. But their idols are silver and gold, made by human hands. They have mouths, but cannot speak, eyes, but cannot see.” Psalm 115:3-5

“Their land is full of silver and gold; there is no end to their treasures. Their land is full of idols, they bow down to the work of their hands, to what their fingers have made.” Isaiah 2:7-9

And the above passages are just a sampling of the turning away from the one true God, turning to lesser gods, the god’s of the people surrounding the nation of Israel.

So in turn, as a result of their turning away, the Lord allowed the nation of Israel to be taken into captivity in order to humble their hearts, that they would turn back and remember all the glorious ways the God of Israel had rescued them in the past, hoping they would turn back to Him with their whole heart so that He could cause a hero to rise among them and bring about their deliverance, so they might see that the God of Israel was not a mere idol, carved of wood and stone, but a living God, with great power beyond human ability. But over and over He would reveal this power, and over and over the love of God in the hearts of his people would turn cold as they would run after their lesser gods.

“My people have committed two sins; they have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.” Jeremiah 2:13

The worst was about to come. The kingdom of Israel would be ripped in two, and both kingdoms, the north and south, were inevitably doomed to be taken into captivity, first by the Assyrians, and finally, the Babylonians. Their temple destroyed, the worship that primarily had to do with the temple needed a new expression in a foreign land with no temple. The Israelites would need to come up with ways to renew their commitment to God and turn their hearts back to him. They came up with their own attempts to earn their way back to God, by coming up with new rules and laws, and ways of interpreting the scriptures. This of course would eventually become a stumbling block to them.

But here we are, at the turning point. The attempts of earning the favor of the living God, just as the surrounding nations have done for thousands of years, making sacrifices to appease their gods and seek to earn favor. The Jewish nation adopted this method by the laws they created for themselves to discipline themselves to follow God. But this was never what the God of the bible had intended. A God hungry for the love of his creation, whose primary objective was to love them and be loved and have the people experience and receive the love of God, they had now turned their faith into a list of do’s and don’ts, just as Christians have done as well. There is something about fallen sinful nature that is wired to “earn our way.”

This was never the plan. A radical shift of thinking would need to occur to understand God’s grand narrative -his remarkable plan of salvation. But when would it come? How long would they need to wait?

Stay tuned next week and the week after, as I dig a little deeper about what idolatry is defined as, and a look at the kinds of idols the Israelites worshipped thousands of years ago. And then there are the whispers of a savior, one like King David in the Old Testament, who would be the one to deliver the people of God from slavery. But would it look quite like the Jewish people were looking for, or would it possibly be fashioned in a different mould than was expected?

Assertiveness


  1. “Assertiveness is an attitude and a way of thinking in any situation where you need to
    – Express your feelings
    – Ask for what you want, or
    – Say no to something you don’t want.

Becoming assertive involves self-awareness and knowing what you want. Behind this knowledge is the belief that you have the right to ask for what you want. When you are assertive, you are conscious of your basic rights as a human being.” – The assertiveness workbook- Randy Paterson

Think about the following situations to see what you would do in this situation, to see if assertiveness is something you may need to work on:

1. You’re being kept on the phone by a salesperson who is trying to sell something you don’t want.
2. You would like to break off a relationship that is no longer working for you.
3. You’re sitting in a movie and the people behind you are talking.
4. Your doctor keeps you waiting for more than 20 min.
5. Your teenager has the stereo on too loud.
6. You would like to return something to the store to get a refund.
7. You’re standing in line and someone moves in front of you.
8. Your friend has owed you money for a long time-money you could use.
9. You receive a bill that is unusually high for the service you received.
10. Your home repair person is demanding payment but has done unsatisfactory work.
11. You receive food at a restaurant that is over or under cooked.
12. You would like to ask a major favor of your partner or spouse.
13. You would like to ask a major favor from a friend.
14. Your friend asks you a favor that you don’t feel like doing.
15. Your roommate, spouse, son or daughter is not doing their share of work around the house.
16. You are in a group and would like to speak up, but don’t know how your opinion will be received.
17. You would like to strike up a conversation at a gathering, but don’t know anyone.
18. You find your partner’s behavior unacceptable.
19. Your friend drops by unexpectedly, just before you were about to leave to run some errands.
20. Your partner os spouse talks down to you as if you were a child.

How would you respond in the above situations. By evaluating your responses, do you feel that assertiveness is something you need to work on?

Just going to leave you with a few tools to work on how to develop assertiveness, and the rights we have as individuals, before I sign off and head out to all my Easter weekend plans!

Developing assertiveness involves knowing what your rights are within a particular situation, being able to address the person(s) involved with the problem you are experiencing and/or the consequences you are experiencing as a result. Being able to clearly articulate your feelings about the situation, and ask for the changes you require for the situation to change. Let the other perosn know how it will affect you for both gaining or not gaining their co-operation, in a respective, non-aggressive manner. Sounds simple enough, but often is trickier than you might think. If for instance, you are addressing someone who is very manipulative, controlling or aggressive, this may take incredible courage to develop assertiveness for someone who is usually much more submissive, or non-confrontational. But I will touch on that in a couple of weeks when I begin my series on abuse -how to respond and what you can do in response to people who are unyielding and abusive toward you. Keep in mind, as we unpack both assertiveness and abuse, that we are still digesting the subject of boundaries here. What it is that we are responsible for, and what we are not. We cannot control how another person will respond to our requests. The only thing we have power over is ourselves, and the actions we can take in response to any given situation that arises.

So I will leave you with this… Just so you have a beginning point: The Rights of an Individual.
Feel free also, to go back to the beginning of the series on boundaries, for a refresher on what we have responsibility for and what we don’t, as well as what we can do to firm up our boundaries, so that we in turn, can develop more assertiveness.

Here is the list of our Personal Bill of rights:

1. I have the right to ask for what I want.
2. I have the right to say no to requests or demands I can’t meet.
3. I have the right to express all of my feelings, positive or negative.
4. I have the right to change my mind.
5. I have the right to make mistakes and not have to be perfect.
6. I have the right to follow my own values and standards.
7. I have the right to say no to anything when I feel I am not ready, it is unsafe, or it violates my values.
8. I have the right to determine my own priorities.
9. I have the right not to be responsible for others’ behavior, actions, feelings, or problems.
10. I have the right to expect honesty from others.
11. I have the right to be angry at someone I love.
12. I have the right to be uniquely myself.
13. I have the right to feel scared and say “I’m afraid.”
14. I have the right to say “I don’t know.”
15. I have the right not to give excuses or reasons for my behaviour.
16. I have the right to make decisions based on my feelings.
17. I have the right to my own needs for personal space and time.
18. I have the right to be playful and frivolous.
19. I have the right to be healthier than those around me.
20. I have the right to be in a non-abusive environment.
21. I have the right to make friends and be comfortable around people.
22. I have the right to change and grow.
23. I have the right to have my needs and wants respected by others.
24. I have the right to be treated with dignity and respect.
25. I have the right to be happy.

If you’d like to look at a great resource, check out my one-on-one Boundary Development Program which will help bring control back into your life!

Hope this has been a helpful introduction to the subject of assertiveness! 

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What situations do you find to be most difficult to assert yourself?  I’d love to hear from you!  Post a comment below or visit my website and register for your Complimentary Strategy Session to discuss your situation in more detail.

Katie Meilleur – Certified Life Coach


Good afternoon bloggers! I’m late getting to my blog today, as I have been prepping for my interview with Khama Anku of Spiritual Physique, getting ready for the No Limits Tele-summit she is hosting next week live, that I have been asked to teach a tele-class on the subject of healthy boundary development & the 4 stages of boundary development.

This is such an exciting opportunity for me in my coaching career! So today, I simply want to promote the event as a way of sharing who I am and what I’m about with you, while encouraging you to check out my tele class airing live next week at: www.NoLimitsTeleSummit.com  !!!

As I was discussing the event today with Khama, we talked a little about my passion for coaching which I will share with you now.

I personally believe this is what I was made for! I have been coaching naturally my whole life! I have a passionate zeal to see others become who they were meant to be, to overcome the obstacles in their way and to reach their goals and dreams!

I want to see people develop and obtain their purpose in life and find their sense of destiny! I want to help people get past what holds them back from living life fully alive! My calling comes right out of Isaiah 61, to bind up the wounds of the broken, to set the captives free, and release from prison those who are captive – in the sense of being held back by things in their life hindering them from living life free and whole. I am meant to comfort the broken, and those who grieve, and provide beauty instead of ashes, gladness instead of sorrow, healing for wounds that have crippled…

I want to see people live life in freedom, life and love!

 This is why I love coaching, because I am able to offer resources to people and walk with them through their journey to becoming whole!

So today, I want to invite you to check out my YouTube channel for my video announcing the upcoming Telesummit and what I will be discussing @ www.YouTube.com/user/ktmeilleur
I also encourage you to check out the site where the Telesummit will be featured at www.NoLimitsTelesummit.com  to sign up today for the event and check out my tele class next week!

You can also find the video on my website and if you want to check out who Khama Anku is and what she’s about, check out her website at www.spiritualphysique.com  for more info.

If after listening to my tele-class, you are interested in some coaching on the subject you can also visit my website and click the contact us button on the screen to connect with me there!

I am soooo excited about this event! It is such a great opportunity for me, and just had to share that with you today, just a little about one of my passions in life!

Can’t wait to connect with some of you after the Telesummit!

Katie Meilleur Live at the No Limits TeleSummit!

Hope you have a great day and wishing you a happy Easter Weekend!

God bless!

No Greater Love


So today I was going to pick up where I left off from last Monday, writing more about attempts we use to ‘earn’ salvation, or God’s love, or access to eternal life, but instead, this morning, I woke up with a poem in my head, ready to get written down. I think it is a fitting place to include it in today’s blog for a couple of reasons.
1) Because it has to do with writing, which my Monday blogs are about, and
2) Because Easter weekend is coming up and that is what this poem has to do with. The real meaning of Easter. Not the chocolate bunnies, and the candy, and the Easter egg hunts, but rather an event that took place around 2000 years ago. The death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, and what I felt God revealed to me this morning about God’s love, and how difficult it is for us to love others as God has loved us. Hope you enjoy:

No greater Love

Don’t tell me that love is a simple choice
He gave his life for mine.
His body broken so mine could be whole,
My sin and my shame
He took on himself
No thought for his own reputation,
I was on his mind.
He did it for me
So I could be free.
He bore my burden, my sin, my shame
And rescued me from the pit.
This is what love is.
What a lesson to learn
To follow this example
To love those who harm us
Betray us and forgive them.
To love an enemy as much as a friend.
To humble myself just as he did,
And take on the effects and consequences of another’s shame
And pour out love, tenderness and mercy.
What a difficult lesson to learn.
When your heart trembles inside
Seeking revenge,
Wanting to stay angry and not to forgive.
Feeling the humiliation of bearing
Another’s shame.
Trying to retain your own reputation
And thinking how unfair this could possibly be.
They get their freedom
You feel the brunt of their fall.
And carry the consequences in yourself.
Is this love if you can do this well?
Is it simply a reminder
That no one is good, no not one.
That we all have gone our own way
Turned aside from following His path?
Is it a reminder of his great unfailing love for us, and how perfectly
he loves? And how imperfect I am?
Thank you Lord for what you have done…
The resurrection of your son from the grave,
After dying alone on a cross
Bearing the full weight of the world.
Our sins and our shame,
And offering in its place,
Freedom, new life, forgiveness and grace.
Teach me this grace.
Help me to love as you do.
There is no greater love than to lay own’s one life down for his friends.
Thank you Jesus, for what you have done.

For those of you celebrating Easter this coming weekend, I hope you have a great Easter and spend some time contemplating what Easter is about, and be thankful for the great love of God, who brought about the way for our freedom through Jesus Christ. Have a great Easter! God bless!

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